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For how long should we condone Domestic Violence in what should have been a sweet memorable relationship experinece?

Most personal relationships do not start out abusive or violent, and most do not end up being abusive. Some, unfortunately, do. As the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) puts it, one out of every five women and one out of every seven men will be physically abused by a partner at some point in their lives.

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To hook up with an abuser, you’d have to be insane, right? That’s what I assumed, but after six months of working on our relationship violence story, I was astounded by how intelligent and calm the women who are duped are. The issue is, these guys are masters of seduction, giving Oscar-worthy performances as Mr. Dream Dude — at least while wooing you. Then, just when you think you’ve fallen madly in love with them, their violent true colors emerge.

This article looks at some of the risk factors for relationship violence as well as some of the warning indicators that a relationship is on the verge of becoming violent. It also goes over some of the consequences of domestic violence as well as some protective factors.

What is the definition of domestic violence?

Domestic violence is any kind of abuse between family members, ex-spouses, intimate cohabitants, former intimate cohabitants, dating couples, and former dating couples in which one partner tries to gain or keep control over the other partner.

Domestic violence can take the form of physical, sexual, emotional, financial, or psychological acts or threats against another person. Any behavior that intimidates, manipulates, humiliates, isolates, frightens, terrorizes, coerces, threatens, blames, hurts, injures, or wounds someone falls under this category. Dating violence is defined as violence perpetrated by someone who is or has been in a romantic or intimate social relationship with the victim, where the existence of the relationship is determined by the following factors:

• the length of the relationship,
• the type of relationship,
• the frequency with which the people in the relationship engage

The good news is that there are clear warning indicators that a man is an abuser before he ever lifts a fist, and they begin with a strange feeling in the pit of your stomach. Control and possessiveness are key red flags. Break up with him early on in the date, when he’s all hot and heavy, and tell him your girls need you. It would be great if he said, “I’m disappointed, but I understand.” However, if he says things like, “I can’t bear to be separated,” or if he makes you feel bad, insults your friend, or becomes angry, these are not good signs!”

Before we come to any conclusions, let’s have a look at some of the terms used in this context.

Domestic/Dating Violence: What Are the Different Types?

Domestic abuse affects people of all races, ages, sexual orientations, religions, and genders. Domestic abuse affects people from all walks of life and all levels of education. Domestic violence can occur in both opposite-sex and same-sex relationships, and it can happen to married, cohabiting, or dating couples.

Domestic violence has a significant impact not just on those who are abused, but also on family members, friends, coworkers, other witnesses, and the community at large. Children who experienced domestic abuse as children are among the victims of this crime. If a child is exposed to domestic violence on a regular basis, it puts them at risk for a wide range of social and physical problems. It also teaches them that violence is normal, which makes them more likely to become victims and abusers in the future.

Abuse of the body

Physical abuse includes things like hitting, slapping, shoving, grasping, pinching, biting, hair pulling, and so on. Abuse can also be when a spouse doesn’t get medical care or pressures him or her to drink or take drugs.

Sexual Harassment

Any sexual contact or action without consent is coerced or attempted to be coerced. Sexual abuse can include things like rape, attacks on sexual parts of the body, forcing sex after physical violence, humiliating someone, and undermining birth control methods.

Abuse of the Emotions

Abuse is defined as undermining a person’s sense of self-worth and/or self-esteem. Repeatedly criticizing someone, undermining one’s abilities, calling one’s kids names, or hurting one’s relationship with them are just some examples of things that can happen.

Abuse of the Economy

This means having complete control over money, not letting people get money, or not letting people go to school or work in order to make them financially dependent.

Abuse of the Mind

Intimidating others, threatening physical harm to oneself or someone else, destroying pets and property, and cutting oneself off from family, friends, school, or work are all examples of psychological abuse. These things aren’t the only things that can be psychological abuse.

Domestic violence can affect both men and women. According to the National Domestic Violence Hotline, one in every four women and one in every seven men over the age of 18 has been physically abused by a partner. Nearly half of both sexes have been psychologically abused by a partner.

Victims’ characteristics

Although men can also be victims of domestic violence, women are more likely to be victims.

• younger people, usually in their twenties and thirties.
• You’re more likely to be dating or cohabiting than you are to be married.
• Nearly half of the population lives in families with children.

Why do women choose to stay?

Fear drives many women to stay with their abusers. They are afraid that if they try to escape, the abuser may become much more aggressive. Some people are afraid of losing their children. Many people worry that they won’t be able to make it on their own.

Some battered women believe it is their fault that they are being assaulted. They believe that if they just act differently, they will be able to halt the abuse. Some women are unable to accept that they have been mistreated. Others are under duress to keep the connection going. They could feel isolated in terms of social support and resources. Women who have been abused often feel alone and have nowhere to turn for help.

Why do guys hit each other (Domestic Violence)?

Abusive guys come in many shapes and sizes. They might have a successful career and be well-liked in their church and neighborhood. Abusive guys frequently have a few features in common. They are envious, possessive, and easily enraged.

Many abusive men consider women second-class citizens. Men are supposed to dominate and control women, they believe.

Abusing men frequently deny or minimize the abuse they perpetrate. They may remark, “You forced me to do this,” blaming their partner for the abuse.

Although alcohol and drugs are frequently linked to domestic violence, they do not cause it. Substance abuse and violence are two separate issues for an abusive man who drinks or uses drugs. Both must be dealt with.

Domestic Violence: Safety Tips

Keep an eye out if your guy:

• Is so enamored with you that he wants to move in as soon as you meet.
• Is irrationally envious.
• He should be uncomfortable if you spend the weekend with your ex-boyfriend, but it’s a red flag if he accuses you of flirting with every guy you see — the waiter, the cashier, a gay buddy.

It freaks you out when he texts so often.

• Don’t believe your friends and family hold you in high regard, if at all.
  Also keep an eye out if:
• He keeps you awake at night, therefore you’re always fatigued.
• You’re continually telling folks, “I’m sorry, but I can’t go.”
• If you’re even a few minutes late, your anxiety will skyrocket since you know how angry he’ll be.
• It’s always your fault when something goes wrong.
• He sends you a lot of apologetic emails or make-up gifts.
• You discover that you can’t do anything without him, or without his approval.

If you’re running, it’s because:

• You learn that he had a violent relationship with a previous partner.
• He follows you about at work, on the internet, and in your car using GPS.
• He punches out a teammate or has a brawl in a pub.
• He has always been terrible to animals.
• He is always physically abusive to you.

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